살면서 기억할 4가지

1. 솔직한 것과 직설적인 것을 헷갈리지 마세요.
솔직한 것에는 정중함이 배어 있으나, 직설적인 것에는 무례함이 묻어 있습니다.

 

2. 당당한 것과 거만한 것을 헷갈리지 마세요.
당당한 것은 자존감에서 비롯되지만, 거만한 것은 자만심에서 비롯됩니다.

 

3. 똑똑한 것과 교만한 것을 헷갈리지 마세요.
똑똑한 것은 상대를 감탄케 하지만, 교만한 것은 상대를 언짢게 만듭니다.

 

4. 사랑하는 것과 집착하는 것을 헷갈리지 마세요.
사랑은 상대를 있는 그대로 품어주지만, 집착은 내 생각 속에 상대를 가두려 합니다.

 

1. Don't confuse being honest(candid) with being blunt(straightforward).
Candor(being honest) is respectful, but bluntness(straightforwardness) is rude.

2. Don't confuse being confident(assertive) with being arrogant(bossy).
Being confident comes from self-esteem, but being arrogant comes from pride(ego).

3. Don't confuse being smart(clever, wise) with being arrogant(cocky).
Being smart makes people impressed (admire you), but being arrogant makes people uncomfortable (offended).

4. Don't confuse loving with clinging(obsessing).
Love embraces the other person as they are, but obsession tries to trap them in your own thoughts(ideas).

1. Candor vs. Bluntness:
   • Candor (Respectful Honesty): Two people are having a conversation. The person being candid has a soft smile, gentle gestures, and speaks with a kind demeanor. They are standing in an open, relaxed posture, making the other person feel comfortable and respected.
   • Bluntness (Rude Honesty): The other person, being blunt, has a stern expression, aggressive posture, and harsh gestures. They are speaking directly and forcefully, causing the other person to feel uncomfortable and defensive.
2. Confidence vs. Arrogance:
   • Confidence (Self-Esteem): In a work setting, a confident person stands tall, speaks calmly, and engages positively with others. Their body language is open and inviting, and they are surrounded by colleagues who are listening attentively and interacting with respect.
   • Arrogance (Pride): Nearby, an arrogant person is shown with a domineering stance, pointing fingers, and exhibiting a condescending attitude. Their colleagues appear frustrated and disengaged, clearly uncomfortable with the arrogant person's behavior.
3. Smartness vs. Arrogance:
   • Smartness (Impressive Knowledge): In a classroom or meeting setting, a smart individual is sharing knowledge, with an engaging and humble demeanor. The audience looks impressed and attentive, admiring the smart person's insights.
   • Arrogance (Offensive Boasting): In contrast, an arrogant person is boasting about their knowledge, with a smug expression and dismissive gestures. The audience looks uncomfortable and offended, clearly not appreciating the arrogant behavior.
4. Love vs. Clinging:
   • Love (Acceptance): A couple is shown, with one partner embracing the other warmly. Their expressions are open and accepting, indicating mutual respect and love. They are standing close but not tightly, allowing space for each other's individuality.
   • Clinging (Obsession): The other side shows a clinging partner holding onto the other tightly, with a possessive and intense look. The other person looks trapped and uncomfortable, indicating that the clinging behavior is suffocating and obsessive.